People who possess this simple, but rare quality are naturally able to put their colleagues at ease, take charge during chaos, and instill confidence when things are changing. Based on my own experiences— as well as research from the experts — this article will explore the 10 qualities of people with amazing presence. More than anything else your presence will determine your success in work and life.
Know the purpose of your presentations, meetings or emails. Understand where your audience is at and think about what they need before opening your mouth or clicking send. Perfect practice makes perfect. If you need notes, use them! Whoever you are, be yourself. What is another word for presence?
What are some words that describe a good person? Previous Article What does it mean when someone says you have a strong presence? Next Article What present means? If you've showered, shaved, put on some deodorant, and dressed in decent clothes with the light on, you should be okay. Part 3. Be present. If you've read the first two sections, you probably already have an idea of how to do this.
It means putting your phone down, engaging with your body language, having showered in the recent past, and just grounding yourself in the moment. It's called "presence" for a reason. You can't have presence if you don't show up! Connect to the moment. Think of it as your moment. If you're on stage, the stage is yours, this moment is yours, and this character is you.
There's nothing to worry about. You're there in mind, body, and spirit. There's no panel of judges, there's no fight with your boyfriend, there's no football game on TV, there's just now where you are.
Never let 'em see you sweat. Don't give them the satisfaction. A person with presence is always cool, calm, and collected. When everyone else is pulling their hair out with stress, you're the one getting things done with a smile on your face.
You do this stuff in your sleep. You eat this stuff for breakfast. No biggie. Nothing can shake you. This goes double if your presence is onstage or in front of a camera. Any nervousness, any agitation will be seen or captured. You've probably seen an actor who couldn't seem to commit to an action or behavior because they were too busy overthinking it, worrying what was correct. When you start sweating, you've already lost confidence in you, and others will shortly follow suit. Don't soften your words.
This is a problem for most of us, especially women. We're taught to say, "I think maybe this will help the problem," instead of, "Here's the solution. Don't bother! While these things can be tactful at times, they can also be unnecessary at others. If you're looking to show you're confident in you, you want to abandon the lingual niceties.
If your boss were to say, "You know, I was thinking that perhaps we should go in a different direction. I know it'll be a huge inconvenience and I'm so sorry, but I really think this is a good idea, don't you? Now if they were to say, "Guys. Listen up. We gotta go in a different direction. It's gonna be work, but it'll be worth it. Whaddaya say? Don't be afraid of silence. You know that awkward first date where the conversation kinda hits a lull and both parties scramble to find something interesting to say to kill the awkward silence?
Don't worry about it. You want 'em hanging on your every word -- if you're talking the entire time, they're gonna be hanging on the edge of their seats so they're closer to the door. So choose your words.
They're more powerful that way. Speak clearly. Every word out of your mouth should be audible. Don't let your sentences trail off like See how terrible that is?! You believe in your words, so there's no need to hide them.
Speak clearly so you can be heard. Otherwise why bother talking? Let's take that same example: "Guys. That's good stuff. Now imagine it like this, "Uhh, hey, guys. We, like gotta go in a different, um, direction. Uhh, it's gonna be, you know, work and stuff, but it'll be worth it.
Don't hem and haw! You're confident in your point, so spit it out! Part 4. You may lie on your back on the floor or otherwise place yourself in a comfortable position.
Make sure that nothing will distract you unplug your phone, close your door, ask people not to disturb you, etc. Close your eyes and pay attention to your breath. Allow your breath to fall in and out of you, unobstructed. Notice any place where your breath begins to catch. Allow your breath to touch that place until it opens and relaxes. Be sure not to judge your observations. Allow yourself to be in the state you are in.
Also know that your state is flexible and can change. Move your attention to your facial muscles. Start from the top of your head and move your way down. Are you lifting your brow? Are you holding your eyes closed too tightly? Are you flaring your nostrils? Are you curling your lips in? Are you pulling your mouth into a frown?
Are you pulling your mouth into a smile? Is your jaw relaxed? Is your neck relaxed? Concentrate on any tension in your face and take a deep breath in. Imagine that you are delivering all of the oxygen from your breath straight to the point on your face that is tense. Continue until your entire face and neck are relaxed. You should feel your sinuses open up and your circulation become better your may feel more warmth or tingling in your skin.
Your expression may feel very different. Do not judge yourself, just notice what you notice. Take the time to do this throughout your entire body. Allow each point of tension to be filled with your breath. Allow these places to open and relax. Read: Mixed signals: Why people misunderstand each other. They also got more romantic interest from others in a separate speed-dating study.
He and his collaborators have found that leaders who make other people feel good by their very presence have teams that are better at sharing information, which leads to more innovation.
Subordinates are more likely to voice their ideas, too , to a leader with positive affective presence. Positive emotions are important for that.
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